Document Type : Research Paper

Author

Assistant Professor of Allameh tabatabai university

Abstract

The aim of the present research is to study the lived experience of in stuck–hearted phenomenon. The method was qualitative and phenomenological. Data collection was conducted through semi-structured interviews. Purposeful sampling and interviews re used and continued until data saturation. The number of participants was 20. Thematic analysis was used for data analysis. By examining people's experience, the following common elements emerged as themes reflecting the stuck-hearted experience: The most important experience is the feeling of reluctance. Other feelings were discomfort, pressure, and to feel being is stuck. To overcome these feelings, these thoughts flow, falls way: focus on the opposite side of the relationship, doubtful thoughts, thoughts that focus on values, furious thought, and self-focused thoughts. All of these thoughts cause a person to engage in conduct that feature, alert, stereotypical, hard and excruciating, dishonest, insincere and passive behavior. Immediately after that, the feelings of regret, helplessness and weakness, anger and other emotions such as hatred and being under dominance in the relationship and consequently, blame inquisitive, ambitious and furiously thoughts is experienced. In fact, according to the characteristics of intimate relationships that is self-disclosure and trust, in stuck-hearted relationships is the opposite of intimate relationships.

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